At about 10:30 this morning, I could no longer handle it. Aubrey hadn't gone pee since 3:00 yesterday, that's 19 1/2 hours. She was upset and didn't know what to do. About every 2 minutes she would get frantic and run to the bathroom to pee-pee, but still nothing. I didn't remind her at all. I tried to be as casual as possible, let her do her own thing. The only problem was, she doesn't know how to do her thing. She was frustrated with herself and in pain. Justin told me to call our insurance's advice nurse, so I did. After a few questions, she finally asked, "Now, how long has it been since she urinated?....Oh, wow, so more than 12 hours. And how long has it been since she had a bowel movement?...You need to get to an urgent care immediately." This is where I broke down into tears. I was mad at myself that I had let it get to this point. I had a feeling I should have stopped on day 1, but I kept going....mainly because I was worried about what others would think. Never again. Never again will I let my fear of being judged get in the way of making what I think is the best decision for my child.
We had already put Aubrey in a diaper and tried to encourage her to go pee in it, so that she would feel some relief. She wouldn't. In the waiting room at urgent care, we made like 20 potty runs because Aubrey wanted to go in the potty, but she couldn't. Finally they called us back and the doctor told us that he thought she would be fine, we just had to encourage her to go in her diaper. They would be checking for a bladder infection and impacted bowels, but because it had only been a couple of days, he thought she would be fine. I guess all the poking on her tummy, did something becuase she started whining about having to pee-pee and she finally (after 21 hours) went pee in her diaper. The doctor still has a sticky baggy thing on her to collect a urine sample. He said that there isn't any hurry to potty train and that she'll get it soon enough. For now though, diapers it is. She hasn't peed since, but I'm hoping she'll be back to normal soon.
I'm relieved that this process is over for now. I feel at peace with my decision to stop. Really I don't think it was a stubborness thing, but rather just not being ready. In any case, I'm glad Aubrey is feeling better and I'm ready for this (non)crappy (pun intended) week to be over!
A little reward for listening to my ranting:
Our cute girl's potty attire~
8 comments:
Oh Barbie, so awful for you. Let me just say, I HATE POTTY TRAINING! I made a wise decision with Briggs and despite his possible readiness I waited until he was 3... pretty much b/c I needed more time. It's hard. I was so stressed out for weeks. And yes, eventually they do get it. She will not be wearing depends to her prom. Ha! I am planning on giving it a go with Haddie over Christmas break but I'm with you...a couple of days if it isn't going well, we'll take a break too! I'll keep all of this in mind. Aubrey obviously wasn't ready... and you did just fine figuring that all out! You are a wonderful mama!
Oh Barbie, I am SO impressed that you know Aubrey so well, and used your intuition to not force it. And the people that I said that book worked for... (2 families), I think theirs were closer to 3. Thank you for sharing here- I still think Aubrey would've been awfully young to get it right now. She's going to be a pro with parents who care about her so much.
I think you made a good choice to quit. I felt so pressured with Maggie because thats the number 1 question "Is she pottytrained?" People already ask about Dally and I say no and we wont be trying anytime soon. Kids are all ready and ready in their own time. Mags was over 3 when she finally got it down and shes fine now.
Im glad Aubrey is feeling better, and I def dont think it was stubborness. Like you said I think it was lack of readiness. The only way you couldve known that is by trying!
{{{{{{{barbie}}}}}} she'll totally get it, don't even worry!!
Oh barb sounds soo hard.sad.frustrating.confusing...but I am glad in the end you did what you felt comfortable with. It sounds like she wanted to do it, but I am sure after over 2 years of going in a comfy diaper it was just hard for her to figure out how to go in the open air in the poddy..and make it a conscious decision..so now you guys are back to normal...good and dont get down on yourself for having her try it for a few days, you are figuring things out as much as she is...you are a good mom.
Don't feel pressure Barbie. No body is judging you. Especially not those of us who will have to be training our own kiddos shortly. My sister thought Ethan was destined to poo in his pants forever. hehe. I'm glad you will be able to share your wisdom with me when I potty train Gracie.
Oh Barbie. You poor thing. You are doing a wondeful job!
Changing diapers isn't so bad. I have been changing Kelsey's diapers for 22 years. I doubt you will be changing Aubrey's diapers that long. She will get it :-)
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